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5.6.3 Helping Children who grieve

5.6.4 Coping with the Holidays

For those who are grieving, coping with the holidays is no small task.  These suggestions will help to make your grief a little easier and your holiday season a little lighter.

Be with those who comfort you:

Share your thoughts with someone you trust and are comfortable talking to.  Trying to ignore the absence of a loved one can make you feel alone and depressed.

Acknowledge and accept your feelings:

The holiday magnifies our feelings of loneliness, bitterness, anger, frustration and depression.  All of the emotions you experience in grief are natural reactions to the death of a loved one.  Don’t feel pressured to be joyful and celebrate; these may not be the feelings you are experiencing.  However, don’t feel guilty if you do enjoy yourself.

Remember:

Include your loved one’s name in conversation and share your memories.  Remember the good times as well as the bad.  Remembering is a very healthy and healing experience.  You can laugh and cry as you remember times spent together.

Eliminate unnecessary stress:

Don’t do anything that is extremely uncomfortable for you.  If you don’t feel like putting up decorations, buying presents, going to church, synagogue, mosque, then don’t do it.  Keeping busy only increases stress and postpones working through grief.  Lower your expectations for the holidays and do what you can when you can.

Plan ahead:

Make plans for the holidays, even if the plans have to change.  It is more beneficial to plan that to just let it happen.  You may choose to celebrate as usual, or you may:

  • Change the time of eating your traditional dinner.
  • Change the room to eat dinner in.
  • Go out for dinner to a restaurant or accept an invitation to someone’s house
  • Change the menu from the usual; cook ham instead of turkey.
  • Go to church at a different time than you usually do or sit in a different location.
  • Change the type and size of your tree and put it in a different spot in the house.
  • Change the time that you usually open presents.

Tears are not a sign of weakness, foolishness or lack of faith.

Tears are evidence of the capacity to care.

-Rev. Dale Turner

Primary authors Dr. Lenna Morgan, Windsor Regional Hospital, Windsor and Ms. Leslie Price, Windsor Regional Hospital, Windsor. Reviewed by the POGO Satellite Manual Palliative Care Working Group, 2016.

5.6.5 The grieve experience
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In this Section

  • 1.1 History & Overview
  • 1.2 Acknowledgements
  • 1.3 Committees and Working Groups
  • 1.4 Satellite Manual Disclaimer
  • 2.1 Principles of Satellite Care
  • 2.2 Eligible Patients
    • 2.2.1 Children Eligible for Chemotherapy Administration in a Satellite Centre
    • 2.2.2 Children Not Eligible for Chemotherapy Administration in a Satellite Centre
    • 2.2.3 Children Eligible for the Management of Complications on a Satellite Centre
    • 2.2.4 Eligibility of Children Requiring Supportive Care
  • 2.3 Scope of Satellite Practice
    • 2.3.1 Implementation of Psychosocial Treatment Plan (Process for Communication)
    • 2.3.2 Limitations on Satellite Practice
  • 2.4 Advanced Satellite Practice
  • 3.1 Safe Handling, Administration and Disposal of Chemotherapy Agents
  • 3.2 Accidental Exposure/Spills
  • 3.3 Extravasation Management
    • 3.3.1 Sample Extravasation Documenting Tool
  • 3.4 Injecting SC Medication Via an Insuflon
  • 3.5 Chemotherapy Administration Reference List
  • 3.6 Central Venous Catheter Care
  • 3.7 Chemotherapy Quick Reference
    • 3.7.1 Rapid Hydration Document
    • 3.7.2 Provider Guide: Prevention and Management or Irinotecan induced Diarrhea
    • 3.7.3 Parent Handout: Prevention and Management of Irinotean induced diarrhea
    • 3.7.4 Capizzi Methotrexate
    • 3.7.5 Erwinia L-Asparaginase
  • 4.1 Management of Fever and Neutropenia
    • 4.1.1 Routine Order Sample Sheet
    • 4.1.2 Fever Cards (Sample)
    • 4.1.3 Criteria for low-risk designation. Risk categorization refers to risk of bacteremia and serious complications, including mortality.
  • 4.2 Pentamidine Administration
    • 4.2.1 Inhaled Pentamidine
    • 4.2.2 Intravenous Pentamidine
  • 4.3 Antiemetics
  • 4.4 Treatment of Varicella-Zoster Infections
  • 4.5 TPN Document
  • 4.6 Immunization of Children with Cancer
  • 4.7 Transfusion
  • 4.8 When to consult the Tertiary Centre
  • 5.1 Palliative Care Overview
  • 5.2 Communication
  • 5.3 Settings of Care
  • 5.4 Symptom Management
  • 5.5 End of Life
  • 5.6 When a Child Dies in the Satellite Centre
    • 5.6.1 Reconciling your grief
    • 5.6.2 Funeral arrangement checklist
    • 5.6.3 Helping Children who grieve
    • 5.6.4 Coping with the Holidays
    • 5.6.5 The grieve experience
  • 6.1 Goals and Objectives
  • 6.2 Participant Site Selection
    • 6.2.1 Tertiary Site Selection
    • 6.2.2 Community Site Selection
  • 6.3 POGO’s Roles
    • 6.3.1 PHIPA, Privacy and Research
  • 6.4 Funding
    • 6.4.1 Funding Support for Tertiary Activity
    • 6.4.2 Financial Support for Pediatric Oncology Community Activity
  • 6.5 Infrastructure and Formal Requirements
    • 6.5.1 Tertiary Partners’ Role in Provincial Pediatric Oncology Satellite Program
    • 6.5.2 Satellite Partners’ Role in Provincial Pediatric Oncology Satellite Program
  • 7.1 Preamble
  • 7.2 Investigator responsibilities
  • 7.3 Training Requirements
    • 7.3.1 General Training for Conduct of Research
    • 7.3.2 Protocol Specific Training
  • 7.4 Research Activites that may be completed in satellite centres under supervision of DSI
  • 7.5 Research Activities to be completed in Tertiary Centres Only
  • 7.6 Recognition and Reporting of Adverse Events (AEs)
  • 7.7 Data Transfer
  • 7.8 Pharmacy Drug Accountibility
  • 7.9 Site Inspections and Quality Assurance
  • 8.1 Pediatric Oncology Shared Care Initial Data Transfer Sheet
  • 8.2 Shuttle Sheet
  • 8.3 Psychosocial Communication Tool
  • 9.1 Satellite Readiness/ Preparedness Checklist
  • 9.2 Education Report for Tertiary Centres
  • 9.3 Education Report for Satellite Centres
  • 9.4 Vital Signs Report
  • 9.5 Self- Assessment
  • 9.6 Satellite Contact Form
  • 9.7 Annual Satellite Caseload Report
  • 9.8 POGO Provincial Satellite Program Annual Accounting Report
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